To be single or not to be single?

So, prior to July 12th of this year, talking about my dating life was not an option. Actually, it was non-existent, so there was absolutely nothing to talk about. Since moving to North Carolina, I have found myself meeting quite a few men. Again I say MEN..not boys. The majority that I have met, have it together. They are driven and have great careers. Not to mention, they have this southern charm that I am enamored by. Trouble? Possibly, but I’m having fun with it. Being the new girl in town is a title that I am owning and loving. First off, it’s a great conversation starter and secondly, many men find it quite interesting. However, the “new factor” will soon wear off and you will just be another chick. Until then, I’m goin to milk it for what it’s worth. It’s amazing how one move to a new city can change your life. The place that I am in now is completely different than 3 months ago. Prior to moving here, I found myself thinking about marriage often and second guessing my decision to break it off with my “crazy” ex. He is another blog entry for a totally different day! As of today, marriage isn’t on the forefront and I’m more open to dating. Oh, and my ex….so glad I let that go! There is a beauty about having options but there is also a downside to it. Too many options can confuse the heck out of you. It’s like going to baskin robbins and wanting to try every flavor. One thing that I know for sure is that I am learning more about what I don’t want but I still can’t seem to figure out what it is I DO want. My friend Dee introuduced me to the term, “keeping your funnel full”. It means that you need to have a good rotation of men and not put all of your eggs in one basket. Men do it all the time! However, you want to make sure to keep it classy and we all know what that means. One thing about keeping your funnel full of options is that you encounter many different qualities that you are attracted to. What one guy seems to lack, another one has. However, finding the total package is the tricky part. No rush, I ‘m sure it will come but hopefully sooner rather than later. A relationship is definetly something I want in the near future but right now, I am just enjoying the space that I am in the company that I surround myself with. Single, yes…but certainly not lonely 🙂

2 thoughts on “To be single or not to be single?

  1. honeytreetops says:

    So so true!! My “funnel” is on E! LOL I would love some options, but most importantly I want to STOP dating and get married! -D

    • chylakeys says:

      I hear ya girl!!! Options are good until the right one comes along. It’s also good to understand the importance of recognizing the right one once they come along. You have to be willing to let the others go. Until then, enjoy the ride while you are on it. Many married women envy the position that we are in. However, I completely understand where you are coming from 🙂

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